Tough Love Can Be Tough: On Setting Boundaries with ‘Needy’ Patients

I’m used to patients being terrified of getting worse. But it took me awhile to realize that the main issue I was now dealing with was that this patient was terrified of getting better. I’m sure there are plenty of psychological publications and blog posts by some really smart people that have already covered this … Continue reading Tough Love Can Be Tough: On Setting Boundaries with ‘Needy’ Patients

This Odd Simultaneous Pursuit: On Teamwork and my Honest Inability to do it All

I’m not cut out for this job. Not entirely, not always. My ego bristles against that truth, fights that truth with all its emotional strength. There are days when I picture some unreal, superhuman nurse who knows everything (as I approach the still very young two-year mark into my nursing career), who has the skills … Continue reading This Odd Simultaneous Pursuit: On Teamwork and my Honest Inability to do it All

A Strange Gift: The Bittersweet Calling to Nursing

(Post originally written Aug 16, 2012) Yesterday was the first time I’ve ever done postmortem care on a little patient, minus the partial experience I had as a nursing student a few years ago. Surreal hardly begins to describe the experience, from cleaning up a messy room that bears witness to the intense activity involved … Continue reading A Strange Gift: The Bittersweet Calling to Nursing

Why I Do Not Care about Social Justice: On Pride Getting in the Way of Genuine Compassion

I can not and should not tell his story. Not in the way that he could. This former gang member had just finished giving our class of nursing students a tour of Homeboy Industries, the amazing ministry to at-risk, formerly gang-involved youth, and the recently incarcerated, headed by Father Gregory Boyle. To conclude the tour, … Continue reading Why I Do Not Care about Social Justice: On Pride Getting in the Way of Genuine Compassion

Close Enough to Change: What Primary Nursing can do to a Nurse’s Heart

He could not speak. His disease process barely allowed him to move any longer. But he was fully present, and he would smack his lips to get my attention. He could use his eyes and a slight nod or shake of the head to communicate his needs and desires. He was fully present, a little … Continue reading Close Enough to Change: What Primary Nursing can do to a Nurse’s Heart

The (He)art of Conversation: On Being an Introverted Nurse (Post 1)

I’m always fascinated by people who have a way of making anyone and everyone feel as though they have known each other for years. My roommate in college during freshman year was this way. This worked out rather well for me, as all types of people would come knocking on our door, reducing the amount … Continue reading The (He)art of Conversation: On Being an Introverted Nurse (Post 1)

Not…Yet: On Growth, Patience, and Self-Compassion as a New Nurse

When I first started voice lessons, my hopes weren’t too high for myself. I certainly was not going to become that self-deceived girl on American Idol who thought she could sing, only to convince all 29.3 million pairs of ears listening in America that even warbling would be considered a long shot. Let’s be honest. … Continue reading Not…Yet: On Growth, Patience, and Self-Compassion as a New Nurse